Autism, Dementia and Repeating the Same Conversation

As anyone with experience of autism knows, having the same conversation over and over (and over and over) becomes par for the course. As does being interrupted (because the person with autism doesn’t realise they need to wait their turn). Sometimes, one just has to bite one’s tongue, pray for patience, and take a deep breath before answering. Again.


But what happens if you…


Add two other children to the mix, one with suspected Asperger’s (very clever but lacks empathy, etc.) and one with a history of anxiety (too much empathy?).


Add your own turbulent life journey with which you are trying your level best to just cope and not be depressed/anxious/suicidal… only by grace…


because all is grace


And what happens if you then…


Add an elderly mother-in-law who has dementia and comes to stay because she can’t cope at home alone while her husband is ill in hospital.


And you shake it all up by repeating the same conversations with (what feels like) numerous people all day long who also have an inexplicable desire to all talk at once. At you.


And you gulp it all down, all at once, until you are questioning your own mental state.




Yep. Sandy says ‘time out, please’.

Oh well, it’s not the end of the world. 

Ford Prefect where are you at a time like this?

8 thoughts on “Autism, Dementia and Repeating the Same Conversation

    • Thank you for your comment.

      This post is supposed to be a little tongue-in-cheek. In truth, we have so much to celebrate with our son’s progress. He tries so hard to understand and to behave well, bless him. We have found a dairy-free diet very beneficial. But no matter how tough, we love him not despite his autism, but with autism as part and parcel of his personality. It helps make him the unique human being that he is, with an inviolable innocence that is so precious in our broken world.

  1. That sounds like a verbal overload to me. I hope your husband is feeling better, you seem to have a sense of humor and I know you are a gifted writer, these things can give you a healthy outlet. I had an experience last year which had me almost going bananas! It’s not something I can really share but I can identify with some of the things you have mentioned. I wasn’t sure how to react when these things happened to me. Bless you, Sandy.

  2. So I wrote a comment in this post two months ago and your post has even more relevance to me since then. I feel like the ground I am walking on his unstable though my foundation is secure. Although I think we are carrying much at our home, I must say you have even more to manage. I’m so glad we have “met” through blogging and I greatly admire your compassion and perspective. Keep writing, I know that is not easy! Bless you!

    • Bless you – you too. My mother in law is now in a care home half a mile away from us. We visit every day. It has been heaven sent. She is happier because there are always people to talk to and activities every day, and we are happier because we have the space to step back and breathe (and deal with our already hectic lives). My father-in-law has been in and out of hospital more times than I can count these past few months, and my MIL is genuinely better off in the care home (which is a lovely place with a great manager and a friendly, helpful care team) than with us. God’s timing is perfect because we didn’t even live here six months ago – we were several hundred miles away!

      I’ll put you and your family on my prayer list. This is one of the privileges of blogging – you get to pray for people you’ve never met and probably never will and yet you get to see the results 🙂 God bless you x

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