A Mathemagical Puzzle

If the settling-down phenomenon underpins the definition of probability, why is it that the universe tends towards chaos?

You know, as in entropy: a gradual decline into disorder (googled definition). How does ‘settling-down’, i.e. becoming more predictable, become disorder? My dad’s doctorate focused on applying the idea of entropy and increasing disorder to economics (and this was before computers). Maybe I should ask him. But if any of my readers would care to enlighten me I’d be most grateful, bearing in mind my woeful lack of education (I missed a lot of school as a child due to illness). I am currently studying Data Analysis as part of my degree  – this is fairly basic stuff, you understand. I am not really a mathematician, just someone who likes patterns and playing games with numbers.

Is it because the model is only a model and not the real world? But that doesn’t make sense either because if the model doesn’t resemble the real world it’s not much of a model.

I was feeling really anxious this morning and then I settled down to some studying and it again struck me how meditative mathematics can be. For someone who has a head that just ain’t right, mathematics is such a relief. My therapist told me that trauma changes the brain, and repeated trauma actually makes significant changes, possibly (likely) irreversible. So that’s me screwed, although actually EMDR did make an enormous difference.Thank God for medication. I hate days like this. But I’d still like to know the answer, if there are any mathematically-minded folk among my readership.

 

He Calls Me Blessed

ac9af76b11e249efb960735acd22f7f7I woke after strange dreams – echoes of ghosts from the past – and trembled. I reached for my Kindle, where my audiobooks are stored (reading tires me, listening not so much). Yesterday I bought David Suchet reading the NIV and while I’m not a fan of the NIV, David Suchet has a voice that is surely a gift from God. I know I’ll be able to listen to him read even the boring bits and not switch off. So I found the gospel of Matthew and clicked play.

I listened to these words and again realised He calls me blessed and I wouldn’t swap that for anything. My treasure is slap bang in the middle of the muddy field. 

Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.

Matthew 5:3 (NRSVA)

I’m still trembling, and part of me hates mornings like this, but I will go through today praying at every step and I will try to get done what needs to be done, because He calls me blessed.

Through the Valley of Shadows

I have a wonderful husband. I probably don’t tell him this often enough. I’ll say it again – I have a wonderful husband.

Sometimes, when you’re wading through the quagmire, when you’re in the Valley of Shadows, what you need is the real hands and feet of Jesus, not just the knowledge of Him as an ethereal presence. It’s great when people say they’ll pray, but sometimes the Valley is too deep – sometimes you need to see His smile, hear His words, feel the kindness of His touch. This is why, I suppose, we are called to serve as ‘the body’. I suppose this is also why Jesus spoke these game-changing words:

“Then the King will say to those on his right, ‘Enter, you who are blessed by my Father! Take what’s coming to you in this kingdom. It’s been ready for you since the world’s foundation. And here’s why:

I was hungry and you fed me,
I was thirsty and you gave me a drink,
I was homeless and you gave me a room,
I was shivering and you gave me clothes,
I was sick and you stopped to visit,
I was in prison and you came to me.’

“Then those ‘sheep’ are going to say, ‘Master, what are you talking about? When did we ever see you hungry and feed you, thirsty and give you a drink? And when did we ever see you sick or in prison and come to you?’ Then the King will say, ‘I’m telling the solemn truth: Whenever you did one of these things to someone overlooked or ignored, that was me—you did it to me.’

Matthew 25:34-40 (The Message)

What has that got to do with me having a wonderful husband? Well, two days ago I took the children to the local indoor play centre. Being very active children (as they should be) they love it there. They can run and climb and jump and whizz down the slides and do gymnastics and all sorts. Prince is quite happy to sit at a table on his own with his radio, or wander round the building trying to find the areas with the strongest and weakest radio signal (this is his current obsession). After wandering about a bit, he gets to eat bacon. He’s happy. Autism can at times be challenging and complicated, at other times it is incredibly simple!

It so happened that a group of mums and dads were there with their offspring for a party, and it so happened that one of the men bore an uncanny resemblance to someone I’d rather forget. The resemblance was so strong, in fact, that I couldn’t help but keep glancing at him, although I was trying to concentrate on my studying (this is the hallmark of the mature student – studying even in a converted warehouse, with children running past you, bumping into your chair, shouting and screaming, ‘pop’ music blasting out of the speakers all the while). So I was sitting there and my heart rate was gradually increasing, then the man came and stood right behind me, causing me to feel paranoid, even though I knew it wasn’t him. He was just a dad enjoying watching his kids. The strange thing was – and I guess this is the hallmark of PTSD – although I knew full well it was not him, it didn’t stop the rising sense of alarm. I stayed focused on my textbook. To all outward appearances I was absorbed in my book. I tried very hard to just get on with what I was doing. But the panic, the anxiety, the horrible feelings stayed.

'Not all wounds are visible'

Not all wounds are visible’

 

Sometimes flashbacks are just feelings, not actual memories, but the thing with flashbacks is that they are so vivid and intense. That’s why they’re ‘flashbacks’ and not just ‘memories’. My soon-to-be-psychologist told me this is because memories of traumatic events can end up stored in the amygdala, the primitive part of the brain which is like the ‘survival’ part of the brain, instead of the usual place, and when they do they’re tied to one’s survival mechanisms of fight or flight, etc. I was not about to let it beat me, though, or to spoil the children’s fun. I knew there was a spiritual element to it too:

“For our struggle is not against enemies of blood and flesh, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the cosmic powers of this present darkness, against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly places.” (Ephesians 6:12 NRSVA)

So I spoke aloud the words, “I rebuke you, Satan, in the name of Jesus” and the sense of immediate threat lessened. To all intents and purposes I behaved just as I would normally, and stayed until the place closed, as planned. I told Frank what had happened, and we enjoyed spending time together before bed – but some niggling nastiness remained.

Yesterday was Saturday, designated by FlyLady as ‘Family Fun Day’. In our house this means Parents Ensure Everyone Else Has Fun Day. I rushed Fluff and Chip off to theatre school (they were late), then I went home, tidied the kitchen and took Frank and Prince to fetch my mother-in-law. We then went to the shops, where Prince spent the best part of an hour looking at radios in his favourite shop. He is indulged in this. For him, this is his weekly chance at enjoying himself. At half twelve I drove to the supermarket and dropped Frank, Prince and MIL at the café where Frank made sure his mother and Prince were fed. I rushed off to fetch the girls, took them home to pick up their leotards and rushed back to the cafe where they grabbed a quick lunch before we headed over to the leisure centre for gymnastics. I then rushed back to do a grocery shop. It is nice for my MIL to do this as she doesn’t get to just do ‘normal’ things living in the care home and I am sure a bit of normality is very helpful (she is doing brilliantly, all things considered). We took MIL back to the care home, then I dropped Frank and Prince off at home before heading off to the leisure centre to pick up the girls. It is all carefully orchestrated on a Saturday, but I found myself wondering if I ought to get a ‘TAXI’ sign for the car.

Anyway, between us Frank and I had made sure everyone was happy. But niggling away all day was this sense of – I don’t know – nastiness and unease. So by the time it got to about half past four, after kids’ activities were over and we were all back home, I felt compelled to withdraw and be on my own. I just can’t think straight when I’m like that. Frank not only was ok with this, when I explained what was going on, but he took charge of cooking the tea and getting two rowdy, giggly girls ready for bed. So here is the point, beyond explaining a little of what PTSD does (and how I manage to not let fear rule me). For me, at that moment, my husband was Jesus’ hands and feet. He was taking care of me and giving me breathing space. And because he gave me the space to just be, I relaxed enough to fall asleep, got a good night’s sleep and am feeling much better this morning.

Hallelujah. Thank you, Jesus (thank you, Frank) 😉